Repression of Emotion

Repression of emotion

Repression of emotion is a mechanism and survival skill.

It is useful as an immediate, short-term measure for coping with threatening or overwhelming situations.

Repression as a way of managing difficulties usually begins in childhood and helps children to maintain a degree of emotional stability in painful circumstances.

By using repression, we push away painful or unwanted thoughts, feelings, fantasies, memories and impulses, and store them in our subconscious mind and body.

Repression of emotion involves denial, direction and projecting attention away from feeling and sensations. Through repression, we subconsciously judge our emotional energies as being negative and undesirable and overwhelming, so we block and control them.

But repression of emotion does not make feelings, sensations and emotional energies go away; they are stored and accumulate in the mind and body, and become a potential cause of illness and disease. 

Repression can become a habitual way of dealing with difficult emotions, and it can create emotion phobia – a default position of avoiding emotions – as well as all sorts of addictions and distractions.

Here are some of the most common ways in which we use repression:

  • We tell ourselves we have to be strong and responsible’ and cannot give in to our emotions.
  • We keep ourselves so busy that we do not have tome to explore our emotions.
  • We tell ourselves we do not want to be burden on anyone.
  • We fill up with food so we do not feel our emotions.
  • We chilled out on alcohol, cigarettes or drugs so that we do not have to feel our emotions.
  • We distract ourselves with entertainment so we do not have to feel our emotions.
  • We tackle difficult situations with rationality and excessive thinking so we do not have to feel our emotion.
  • We keep ourselves in our comfort zone and in control so we do not have to feel our emotions.
  • We cry at movies or for others but are unwilling to feel empathy for ourselves.

MIndfulness of emotion is the oppsite of repression of emotion, and it can be used to release and heal repression, gently and compassionately, and thereby to release and heal the past.

Through bring mindfulness to our emotion, we turn and face them with courageous willingness to connect with difficult feelings.

Feeling is Healing

Healing often involves consciously turning our attention towards those parts of ourselves that have been ignored. This means listening and responding to our own needs and feelings instead of neglecting them. By avoiding our emotions we create an inner struggle – a struggle between the thinking mind and the feeling body.

The ability to listen to our physical, emotional and spiritual needs, and feelings that accompany them, can be severely restricted when our attention is dominated by the thinking mind.


Psychoneuroimmunology (PNI) is the scientific study of the impact of thoughts, feelings and behavioural patterns of response on our immune system.

In this field of study it has been found that the same biochemical messagers that communicate needs and feelings also regulate the functioning of our immune system.

To the surprise of many immunologists, it turns out that needs, feelings, thoughts and instincts are mediated by chemicals call neuropetides, which also regulate our body’s defence and healing mechanisms.

The more our emotions flow and are expressed appropriately, the better our health and wellness.

Research findings in the field of PNI shattered the myth that ‘negative emotions’ cause immune dysfunction and ‘positive emotions’ promote it.

The critical issue is not the presence of ‘negative emotions’ but whether they are experienced and expressed, or repressed and withheld.

Related reading:

New! Comments

Have your say about what you just read! Leave me a comment in the box below.
Enter Your E-mail Address
Enter Your First Name (optional)

Don't worry — your e-mail address is totally secure.
I promise to use it only to send you Health, Happiness and Prosperity E-zine.
[?]Subscribe To This Site
  • follow us in feedly
  • Add to My Yahoo!
  • Add to My MSN
  • Subscribe with Bloglines